Monday, February 22, 2010

To "Anonymous"

To the anonymous commenter who called my account of meeting Sophie "cold and detached": 

Yes, we are excited and overjoyed and beside ourselves with gratitude and love for our daughter. When I wrote that post, I was still jet-lagged and probably a bit in shock that our almost five-year journey had finally resulted in this precious little girl. I just wanted to get the facts of our meeting her down for our friends and family--who all of course know how happy we are.

I forget that this blog is read by people who don't know us at all. And who apparently think it is OK to try to ruin our first days with our daughter with cold and nasty anonymous comments. If you are a person who is still waiting and having a bad day because it's hard to see other people getting their children, I'll pray for you. Otherwise, get a life. And thanks for giving me the final push I needed to make this blog private as soon as we get home. 


maria ruiz scaperlanda said...

Oh Heidi -- I'm so sorry. There's no excuse for the actions and words of that "Anonymous," who clearly has character issues. You don't need to explain anything--your presence and your actions speak volumes! This person has issues...I will throw some prayers his/her way... and you throw that comment out the window! It's rubbish, and not worth your energy.

I don't have to be family or live close to you to feel the JOY you both have for Sophie! As I said in a previous post, I can see it in your faces! You have a cyber community of fellow pilgrims praying for you and your family--and sending you angels to keep you company on this piece of the journey. Blessings from oklahoma.

Anonymous said...

Dear Anonymous, I hope you don't try to ruin any one else's day. I, too,will pray for you as you seem to have a lot of problems.

Heidi and Ed, throw that one out. There is always someone like that around who just can't stand to see any one happy.

It was great to see you all on SKYPE last night. I can't wait to get to Chicago.

Love, Mom/Gram

Paul and Liz said...

Hi -

Congratulations on your beautiful daughter. She is so adorable with those big fat cheeks. Anyhoo, I just wanted to say, that I enjoy your blog and there is nothing better than witnessing another family brought together by the miracle of adoption. Don't let that anonymous poster rain on your parade. Anyone who has adopted, or given birth for that matter, knows that you are in a state of shock and awe the first few days / weeks / sorry if that person doesn't feel the love and joy that you and your hubby are exuding in your photos, but it is so obviously there.

(I am a friend of the Clarkes, we only met once or twice but you may remember me as I have two adopted daughters from Mexico. Megan mailed me your link and I have been following your journey - I am just so very happy for you:)

Kristin said...

Don't let ANYONE get in the way of your joy. You have waited a long time for this. Savor every moment, you deserve it!

Anonymous said...

So sorry someone would comment negatively about your account of meeting your daughter. Even if it was a poorly written post (which it is NOT), don't let angry people get you down. I am a waiting parent, that you don't know, and I thank every single one of you who have blogs public for us to hold to hope by reading your beautiful stories. It reminds us of the end result and that it WILL happen for us. Enjoy every second of your journey and your beautiful new daughter.


Alicia said...

Hi Heidi, WOW five years is a long time to wait! I am so happy that your patience has rewarded you with the beautiful baby girl who now has a family of her own.

I am so sorry that you were forced to defend yourself. Enjoy the rest of your trip.

God Bless,

Susan said...

Please don't let someone that is to ashamed about their own comment to post their ID to spoil your first days together! Your family is beautiful and we have BTDT w/ the jet lag etc..

kevin said...

Dearest Heidi & Ed,

Heidi, someday someone will ask you where her father is from - proudly respond "Pennsylvania."

Heidi, someday someone will ask you what her father is - proudly respond "He's a Butler!"

Four is Finer!

Love, K&K

P.S. He who rains on parade never lets the Son shine! God's Son sparkles thru the two of you!

cathy heldt said...

Ignore, Ignore, ignore. As someone who has been in your shoes, I am just amazed that you are posting anything. I was too tired to function well enough to post, much less please "anonymous" who has nothing better to do than judge people who's shoes they haven't walked in.

Sophie is absolutley darling-can't wait to have her across the street.


to sing and to dance (karen) said...

WOW. I can't believe someone would say such a thing to someone first meeting their child. I'm so sorry you had to put up with that.
A long time ago, I suffered with some childish antics from someone who would post ugly comments while I was waiting for our first daughter. It's just downright mean, and actually unbelievable that people like that might some day be parents. Odd too, how the cowards hide behind Anonymous.

maggie said...

Another Anonymous Comment.......
We are in the process of adopting from China and I often surf the net reading people's stories of meeting their new little ones. What people write on Blogs is up to them. Some people put a lot of detail, others put bare minimum facts. However let's remember why you are there - not to Blog about an experience but to create a family. I appreciate any insite into a strangers personal experience and would never be so rude or tacky to write anything other than positive things. After all you don't have to read it.Don't get too hung up about people's bad or rude comments it just isn't worth it.
I wish you all the best she certainly looks a happy little girl.

Dawn said...

Ignore people that act like that. They probablyh know NOTHING about the situation. When we adopted our son from Vietnam, I posted information for family and friends. The pictures are what people want to see. They can see the joy on your faces!!

Susan said...

I can't believe that someone would be so ignorant as to criticize how you were posting your blog. Not everyone can post their feeling easily when they sit down at the computer. All I can say is WHAT A JERK! Keep on posting, I love to relive the days when we got our two girls.

shelley said...

Please don't waste your time and energy on haters. Anyone who has adopted from China KNOWS.....all others don't

I am completely smitten by your girl. I LOVE the pic in the elevator.

Creative Genius? said...

Heidi - forget everyone else and just focus on your amazing family!! I have been following your story since I worked with you on For the Love of Yarn and I am OVER THE MOON that you are now a parent of two - double blessed! I will be sad if you make this blog private but I understand -- Please know that I am saying a prayer for you guys and that you four may always find happiness, good health and many many years of smiles!

:-) Alison

(And to Anonymous - may your coffee be cold, your cookies be crumbled and your underwear be in a bind all day -- shame on you!)

Di said...

Hi Heidi
I am so sorry about the comment on your blog...I cannot believe that someone could be so heartless. I thought that your account was just was lovely to read all your little observations of your long awaited daughter. And as Maria says in the first comment here it doesn't take much reading of your blog to know how long you have been waiting for your precious daughter, the love you show to Sam and the joy that you have in finally having your daughter in your arms. Please don't let this comment spoil your joy and I look forward to following along on your happiest journey both whilst you are in China and at home. I feel that I have come to know you (without actually knowing you) and am privileged that you have let us follow along on this emotional journey.

Enjoy your beautiful daughter as I know you will!

kendra said...

Heidi and Ed, Sophie is perfect. Congratulations. Potty trained already? my goodness, lucky you. We have to plan a family gathering. Love, Kendra

Sharon Allen said...

I dont know you either (but love looking at your blog), the "anonymous" must have never been up for 30+hours, traveled on multiple planes, changed time zones, went to a place where NO ONE could understand anything you said (and looks at you funny) and then meet their wonderful, sweet child who is traumatized to join their new family and would really be happier at the moment to go back to their other family. As parents we want to make our children happy and give them everything they want, but giving them back is NOT an option so you have to watch them suffer and it breaks your heart into.
Dont let someone spoil your joy, God gave you this blessing so just drink up the goodness.
I really hate that your blog is going private, you have a super family.
Good luck
Sharon Allen

Eden said...

o no! how sad! i won't be able to read anymore :(

i've enjoyed you sharing your journey publically thus far - congrats on finally getting Sophie, she's ADORABLE!

suzy nam said...

heidi, we are so happy for you guys! sophie is adorable! don't sweat the haters. your blog is such a pleasure to read and honestly would be sad to have it go private, as i am sure there are many, many people out there who will find your experience enlightening and helpful. it's really admirable that you have chosen to share such a personal and emotional experience with us.

anyway, we are really looking forward to meeting the kids!


Véronique said...


I also had horrible anonymous comments while in Changsha and Beijing. I did not post them and ignored them. These people did not deserve my attention while I was living the most important days of my life.

My friends, Angélique and JF are sad they were not able to accompany you to Nawelle's birthplace. I can only imagine the emotions you felt.

Have a safe trip to Ghangzhou and home.

All the best,
Véronique, mother of Anna (Hunan)

Anonymous said...

Just found your blog - Sophie is so adorable! Sorry that one of the too many internet trolls found your blog and had nothing better to do than leave nasty comments - ironic that someone who was cold accused you of being cold! I know it's hard but please don't let these jerks waste any more of your time and ruin it for everyone.