After our referral we received some video of Sam in the orphanage. Our in-country liaison, Caroline of the Catalyst Foundation, was talking to him and she says, "Say hi to Mommy and Daddy. They're in Chicago. Go Cubs!" At which point Sam smiles really cute! So we figured he's a Cubs fan. I dressed him in this cute Cubs outfit (onesie on clearance from Target; little shorts with baseball stitching from the thrift store) to visit Grandma and Grandpa at the Manions on Friday. That's my sister, Auntie Amy.
Sam enjoyed gnawing on the marble countertop with Grandma. He was so darn cute the whole visit but then was a holy terror later that night. I do think we are doing too much, too soon with him. He did not like the car seat, so the hour-long drive was too much for him. We also stopped at a wake on the way home (for my friend Kristin's father). He seemed fine, but then got so agitated at night, wouldn't let us hold him or comfort him, and was crying a lot.
So I got on this attachment website and recognized some warning signs. So I think we need to back off with too many new experiences and new people. In some ways, he is attaching very well: has great eye contact with us and smiles and plays well with us. But he is definitely afraid to go to sleep at night and becomes so upset and even raging that it's scary. I'm co-sleeping with him now, so that should help. He also spends a lot of time with Ed in the Bjorn baby carrier.
It's hard because so many people are so excited to meet him, and we are so proud and want to show him off. But I think if we are cautious and conservative now, it will be best for him.