Sunday, January 21, 2007

More delays

Ed and I had a phone interview with our agency yesterday, but rather than talk about airline ticket preference, in-country fees, etc., we got an update on how slow they expect the rest of the process to be. Basically, because of the new procedures, our logged-in dossier is expected to just sit on a desk in Vietnam, possibly for months, because the DIA doesn't have the manpower to approve parent or child dossier while also investigating all the current referrals.

Although a miracle is possible, it is not likely that we will get our son anytime soon. Even by June is now 50/50 at best. I am so upset, I spent the whole day crying yesterday. I no longer believe we are ever going to be parents and it hurts so much.

I truly thank God I have loving, supportive husband who is still keeping the faith, but even he's pretty sad today. I'm going to need to check out for a few weeks till I can even deal with this news. Please pray for us.

10 comments:

Mary said...

I check this site at least twice a day. Sorry for the bad news. Was hoping for some good news soon. Love, Mom

Anonymous said...

Dear Sam and Sophie: Today your mom is so sad. Someday you will love her as much as I do, and then you will know how much it hurts to see someone you love so much be so sad. I know you are small and the world is wide, but I hope you find your way to each other soon. Love, Aunt Amy
Dear Heidi and Ed: Try not to lose faith. Grab onto each other and hang on as best you can. Thank you Ed, for supporting Heidi. Heidi, try to support Ed. I will pray so hard for you both. I don't know what it's like to go through this, but I know you are hurting and I wish I could help. I love you and I am here. Love, Amy

Anonymous said...

Hey, Heidi.

I decided to check in and see what was new. I'm so sorry to hear the latest frustrating news. You and Ed are always in my thoughts and prayers. Call me whenever you want or need to vent...as you know I'm not very good with the whole blog thing, but am always around...a phone call away.
love, trish

Anonymous said...

Dear Heidi,
I started reading your blogs after getting your Christmas letter. I am so sorry for what you have been through in your quest to have children. This latest news is devastating. I truly hope you and Ed can stay close and loving during this painful time. Bertold and I are praying for you and the children out there destined to be yours - may you be united soon.
Danielle

Anonymous said...

I'm so, so sorry to hear of your heartache. I'm sure you know that you need to keep your faith, but sometimes it's just so hard, isn't it? I hope and pray that things will turn around and move towards the happy conclusion that you we are all hoping for!

Anonymous said...

Was searching the web for a knitting pattern when came upon your site and was interested in your adoption area. You see, my daughter and son-in-law, after 8 years of trying to conceive, going through all the difficult tests, procedures, finally getting pregnant and then the heartbreak of miscarrage, finally decided to adopt. After a very long frustrating journey, their dreams finally came true last March. Matthew is now 10 months old and fills our hearts with love overflowing each day. My daughter recently said, with tears in her eyes, watching Matty asleep in his crib, "Never did I ever imagine in my wildest dreams that I'd have a child as sweet and as beautiful as Matthew, never in a millon years." And even though it seemed like a million years before he finally came into our lives, he is here now. So, I know what a difficult time this is for you, but take heart, your day will come and hopefully in the very near future. Be patient, but also look forward to that day - it will come!
Well I have to get back to my knitting pattern search - incidently, for a pair of mittens to match the little hat I just made for Matty.
Love and prayers to you.

Matty's Grammy

bunchkin said...

As someone who has been given 4 children, I almost feel... unqualified?(Don't really know if that's the right word?) to give any advice to someone who is having to wait so long to see their babies. But while reading your posts, I really felt that I was supposed to comment.
Maybe the reason for all the delays is that God knows that YOUR baby hasn't been born yet, and is waiting for just the right time for you paperwork to go through so that everything will happen perfectly so that THAT special baby will come home with you. And won't it be awesome to tell your son that he is so special that God used TWO countries delaying paperwork and changing their adoption laws, just so that HE would come into YOUR home and not someone elses? A match made in heaven. I will be praying for you.

Brenda said...

Sorry to hear about your delays Heidi. We're also adopting from Vietnam and live in the great midwest! We're using Vorf. We have been waiting since August 20th and are now number 1 on the list! We'll travel 3-months after referral. Good luck to you.

Anonymous said...

I haven't read in awhile and was hoping for the good news. My thoughts and prayers are with you. This delay brings to mind the advent service you did for YFN years ago with the theme of waiting in joyful hope. Your journey to adopt is bringing a deep new meaning to that phrase for me.
Laura

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